Thursday, February 26, 2015

Milena's Birth Story

This story actually starts long before the actual birth. Xander's homebirth experience was awesome, and I really wanted another experience just like it. As soon as I found out I was pregnant, I called my midwife and was really excited to be working with her again. Although the pregnancy was a little more difficult than my others, everything was going well and I was healthy. As the due date got closer, however, I found myself getting more and more nervous. This had me confused because I had already done a homebirth which wasn't that hard, and everything had gone well. I talked to my midwife about it, and she suggested I get a blessing (which I was already planning to do) and try to figure out what was making me nervous. Neil gave me a really great blessing which said that both the baby and I would be healthy and safe, and that I would have my questions answered. The next morning Sherri called me and suggested I get an ultrasound just for peace of mind. I was feeling quite a bit better about things at this point, so I wasn't going to do it, but in the end I decided it couldn't hurt.

The next morning we went to the doctor she had recommended and had an ultrasound done. As soon as the tech started and said “there's the head” I knew we had a problem. She was breech! I'm almost positive she was head down up until a few days before, and my heart sank. Daphne was breech as well, which ended in a horrible C-section experience that I was desperate not to repeat. The doctor gave us a bunch of options ranging from waiting to see if she'd turn back on her own to doing an external version and then breaking my water right after. I really wanted an unmedicated birth, so it kind of surprised me when Neil and I prayed about it and felt like we needed the highest level of intervention. Even though it was not at all what I wanted, I really felt a lot of peace about doing it this way and getting her here quickly.

I think this is one of the only pregnant pictures I have

The next morning we got to the hospital at 6 am to start the process. They gave me both Tributaline and an epidural for the Version to give her the highest chance possible of turning. Once that was all in place, the doctor tried to turn her in what seemed like the easiest direction, but she wouldn't budge. He then tried the other way, and she ended up turning ¾ of the way around to end up head down. He had to push really hard, and it put her into distress for a few minutes. They were almost ready to prep me for a C-section when her heart rate went back to normal. After that, they broke my water, started me on a low dose of pitocin, and we were off. We all thought things would progress quickly since Xander's birth was really fast, but for a long time nothing seemed to be happening. The one thing we did notice, however, was that her heart rate would go down quite a bit every time I had a contraction. This was worrisome but we just kept an eye on it and kept going. 

Just waiting!



At some point, the nurses came in to check me and found something worrisome. She quietly had someone get the doctor, who checked and confirmed that he could feel the cord below her head. This is called a cord prolapse, and it's really dangerous for the baby. Since he knew I didn't want a C-section, he tried to push the cord back up out of the way. I had let my epidural mostly wear off at this point, and it was actually quite painful. After a few minutes he did manage to move the cord, but her heart rate dipped and wouldn't go back up. At this point, my room was suddenly a hub of activity. Everyone started prepping me for an emergency C-section, and I wasn't sure exactly what was going on. Just as they were about ready to wheel me out the door, Sherri told Neil to give me a blessing RIGHT NOW! He put his hands on my head, the room calmed down, and he gave me the most amazing blessing. As soon as he was done, her heart rate started to go back up to normal. Everyone kind of paused, not knowing what to do, and my doctor decided to wait for a minute to see what would happen. Her heart rate stayed up, so they put the C-section on hold. Apparently he got a lot of flack from the other doctors about that, but I was so grateful.

After that scare, things progressed fairly normally again. Her heart rate stayed up and I eventually progressed far enough to start pushing. They told me I needed to get her out as fast as I can, which luckily is pretty easy for me to do. I did want to ease her head out so that I didn't tear, and that went well, but then her shoulder got stuck. Apparently her head was completely purple, which was scary, but after a few really hard pushes they got the shoulder out and then she was out! They had to take her immediately over to check her out, but she started crying right away and pinked up really quickly. All I could feel was relief that it was all over, and so grateful for the support that I had. I know that it was the guidance of the Spirit and the power of the Priesthood that got her here safely, and this birth was such a testimony to me that both are real. Even though the experience was completely opposite than the one I wanted, I am still grateful for it and we have a perfect, beautiful, healthy little girl to love!